We live in a world where learning has come to mean acquiring information. This is not how learning has been understood in all eras of human history. At times learning has been synonymous with gaining survival skills, in other times with understanding what constitutes a good life and in others what one needed to do to gain a good position in the afterlife. Our focus on acquiring information means that most of what we call learning happens cognitively through reasoning and language. The consequence of this is that our learning is heavily weighted in one direction and we lack the practice of learning in others. Where we do not put attention on learning is in either the emotional domain or the body. These areas we mostly leave to chance.
As an example our common sense belief is that we make decisions rationally. We even sometimes refer to ourselves as rational beings. However, none of us chose our partner, our car or our work for purely rational reasons. In fact our claim at UnLearnReLearn is that although we gathered information and data through reason our choice was made in the emotional domain. The idea that decisions are made in the emotional domain suggests that the more we understand what emotions are, what they mean and what they are trying to tell us the more intelligent our choices will be.
A similar situation exists in terms of our bodies. We largely pay attention to our bodies when they are ill or broken or for athletic activities. Sometimes we’ve relegated them to the role of simply carrying our heads around. However, it is through the body that we receive information from and send information to the world around us. The sensations we experience tell us which emotions have been triggered and the shape our bodies habitually take communicate volumes to those we interact with. Moreover the shape of the body co-creates the emotion we are experiencing and our thoughts and therefore the words we speak. Imagine a person in resignation who does not stand with shoulders slumped and head down and the thought that nothing he or she does will make any difference. There is a coherence among the three aspects of every human.
All of this is where we focus our work with you whether through coaching, training or mentoring and whether we are working with one individual or a team. Learning the fundamentals of human interaction such as the mechanics of language, how to make clear requests, offers and promises, the value of emotions, the ability to shift the body to support our efforts, trust, resilience or navigating change are available to every human being. The simple fact is that we have skipped over this level of fundamental human skills.
Thank you for joining us in this conversation and exploration. We look forward to joining with you to make this expanded view of human capacity common sense and common practice in the world.